We are who we pretend to be.

True gender equality is actually perceived as inequality. A group that is made up of 50% women is perceived as being mostly women. A situation that is perfectly equal between men and women is perceived as being biased in favor of women.
And if you don’t believe me, you’ve never been a married woman who kept her family name. I have had students hold that up as proof of my “sexism.”
My own brother told me that he could never marry a woman who kept her name because “everyone would know who ruled that relationship.” Perfect equality – my husband keeps his name and I keep mine – is held as a statement of superiority on my part.

- Lucy, When Worlds Collide: Fandom and Male Privilege. (via seaofbadstories)

I might have reblogged this already but it’s so good I don’t care.

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Kyriarchy in action.

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Also the study where they had women and men talking in a discussion and when women spoke around 30% of the time, men perceived them as dominating the discussion. They didn’t consider it “equal” until something like 5-10% of women talking.

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Voila. A beautiful example of why fighting for equality becomes a gross exaggeration in the eyes of the oppressors.

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Regarding surnames, I rather like the idea of having husband and wife swap. I like the idea of having a different name when you get married, how it sort of says how you’re a different person now, but I think if you’re going to make a woman change her name then I think it ought to go for the man, too. (I just had a sudden thought that I don’t know how the name thing works with same-sex marriages, but then I was like, “Oh yeah, legally they don’t exist in the majority of my country” and then I was sad and angry. But none of that is really relevant to the specific topic, so I’m just going to stop typing now.)

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